The Contagion Effect: Understanding Suicide [spacer height="20px"][spacer height="20px"]Remember that moment in The Truman Show when Jim Carrey's boat pierced the "sky"? In an instant, everything he thought was real and possible was disproven.  Suddenly, possibilities were endless. What he never considered were options—going outside his bubble, seeing the world in a different way—became his new reality.That's what it's like to experience suicide. Suddenly, the option of death becomes part of your reality, part of your vocabulary. It becomes tangible, something that's...

In December 2006, after traveling for a week in Thailand with my sister Miya and our mom (click here to read that blog post!), Miya and I flew to India. This is an excerpt from my memoir, Must Girls Love. Note that I removed some journal entries that discussed her relationship struggles to shorten this blog post.Read the entire chapter AND book on Amazon Kindle!Excerpt from Chapter 4:On December 14, Miya and I flew out of Bangkok for...

This is an excerpt from my memoir, Must Girls Love, about traveling Thailand with my sister Miya in 2006.I cut out some parts (i.e. some of Miya's journal entries and added tidbits), so this post wasn't overly long, but sharing this story with you is important. I wrote this book when I was 22 years old, and even a decade later it acts as a reminder to live more freely, more openly.I consider this time...

At 31, my mom was pregnant with me while juggling 3 children, ages 2, 4, and 6.My dad, working 18-hour days, was barely around and even when he was, he wasn't helpful. To this day, he doesn't know how to change a diaper. So my mom was left to care for us mostly alone, sometimes with the help of an 11-year-old babysitter or girlfriends who were also juggling their pods.My sister Miya was hyperactive; my sister Britni...

In May 2016, I learned about Carole. A kind, soft woman who was slowly dying in hospice. When I looked at the photographs my mom took of her at her home with family, I felt a sense of connection to a woman whom I had never and would never meet 2,300 miles away in Michigan. I imagined she was my mom and what it would be like to know she would soon be gone. How could I make the...

It's my dad's 72nd birthday, and so, at his expense, we're doing another "Joel Roast" since everyone thoroughly enjoyed last year's! Dad, even though I know you won't read any of this because you've never read anything I've written—you're too ADD—I'm still going to say happy birthday, old man!Here are this past year's goodies: Joel Convo posts from October 28, 2015 - October 28, 2016!**DAD: What are you doing? ME: I'm writing at the coffeeshop. DAD: Anyone know me there? ME:...